Can We Be Friends!

Friendship after divorce is important. It proves that you can forgive and let go. When you have children, it's vital that two parents still agree to be there for them, no matter what. This teaches them a valuable lesson on forgiveness which is the doorway to peace, joy and a life of freedom. Freedom- not be held in bondage by bitterness because the marriage didn't work. This releases our children from the pressure of choosing sides, but this will only happen if one parent doesn't fill their head with negative thoughts of the other. It might be hard to do, but it's worth it for everyone's well being.

Get Over it First, Then Date!

REBOUND, REBOUND, REBOUND.....not a good idea! Once your divorced, get everything about that person out of your system before dating. Get rid of the pictures, the clothes, sheets or anything he/she may have bought you. If you don't, those things are memories that can have a strong hold on you and make it hard to let go. Throw everything away, except for valuables, sell them....LOL

You can't go forward looking in the rear view mirror of your past relationship. Release and let go, give yourself time to heal and get reacquainted with yourself. Figure out what you really desire this time so you don't make the same mistake twice.

Tell The Truth!

Tell your children the truth, when they are old enough to understand. Divorce effects just as much as it does you. They never expect the two people who they love so dearly and see as their security will ever separate. When this happens, they are torn apart. Yes, my children were, and more so my son. But, his father painted a picture of me that wasn't true, and when he was old enough to see for himself, the truth revealed itself. Now, my children and I have a beautiful relationship. We've were able to properly heal because the truth was revealed.

Divorced and Single

I've been divorced for over 11 yrs. and I'm still single. Not because I'm against marriage; marriage is wonderful if you are with the right mate. Unfortunately for me, although my X was a good person, he just wasn't the one for me and blinded by love, it took me many years to see that. So, now that I'm much wiser, when meeting men, I don't just see them for how "nice" they are, but for what we can contribute to each other in agreement to our goals for long term and not short term fulfillment. I now take my time! Certainly love is in my favor! But it takes more than love to make a relationship work!