Communication (open honesty) is one of the main reason relationships/marriages end. First and foremost, if your mate isn't your best friend, you are already in a doomed situation. You are both enemies in disguise. The person you decide to live your life with should be the one you can tell your deepest secrets and trust that he/she would never use that information against you. I know women who tell all their relationship/marital business to relatives, friends, etc. Then get advice, most of the time, from people who are not even an expert in that area. What I mean is if you are single or divorced and have not learned the secret to why it didn't work; thus learning the lesson, you are not QUALIFIED, to give advice. However, if you are sharing your experience to help someone avoid the pitfalls you've experienced, then great. It's funny, my X-husband called me to say after 11yrs. that our marriage didn't work because he didn't know how to communicate with me. He blamed himself. Although I forgave him a long time ago, I let him speak because at this point he needed to forgive himself and move on. The great thing about it is we are friends now. I'm such a divorce sport.
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